04.13.06
Big Love: The Strange Sexuality Of Getting Fatter, and Fatter, and Fatter…

I’m going to be honest with you right now. Go ahead, bring on the flames. Here’s the truth: I hate fat people. I know, I know, what a horrible and intolerant thing for me to say. But I’m not talking about people who are a little overweight, or people with glandular problems or genetic predispositions they just can’t overcome despite their best efforts. I’m talking about lazy, gluttonous, morbidly obese lardasses who are unhealthily huge simply because they eat like disgusting fucking pigs and sit on their fat fucking asses all day long. There are millions of them, and they are everything that’s wrong with America, wrapped up into one big blubbery package.

So, with that in mind, you can imagine that of all the bizarre fetishes I’ve encountered, “feederism” is the one that offends me the most - and I’m not exactly easy to offend. As many times as I’ve seen people eating their own feces or sticking octopuses up their asses, none of it has genuinely disgusted me quite like this particular practice.
It was Ali who first introduced me to a BBC documentary entitled Fat Girls And Feeders, an equal parts fascinating and horrifying look into the world of this strange group of individuals who are not simply attracted to overweight people, but who are aroused by the actual act of feeding them and watching them grow larger. Sexualized gluttony. Overindulgence at its most glorified and despicable.

There are two categories of people in this fetish, and it basically boils down to dominant and submissive: The feeder and the feedee, respectively. The feeder, usually male, is aroused by the idea of providing his feedee with as much food as he/she needs to grow fatter and fatter. Actually tracking the progress of the feedee’s growth is what turns these people on. The feedee (also called a “gainer”), then, is the person who continues to gain weight with the feeder’s assistance and support. The feedee is often a textbook case of someone with low self esteem being coerced into something destructive through the false encouragement of a dominant personality. I can’t recommend the documentary enough (if you can’t find it on TV, you might try here) for a distressing introduction to this dark world… but thankfully the web also provides a bounty of resources.
Fantasy Feeder is a very active community which celebrates weight gain as a beautiful thing, and provides all the resources you’ll need to engage in a rewarding feeder/feedee relationship. In addition to the usual image galleries and forums, you’ll also find unique features like diet programs to help your feedee gain weight quickly, and interactive games such as “Fatten Your Feedee”, where you are challenged to “fatten your girlfriend up to 500 lbs, whilst keeping her happy and healthy.” Healthy? Really? No one is 500 lbs. and healthy, you disgusting fucks.

My personal favorites are the fattening morphs, where a Javascript program lets you stretch already morbidly obese naked women to absurd proportions. Thankfully it only takes one hand to use a mouse, because this shit is HOTT!!

As always, it is the discourse of real fatties on the discussion forums where the most wretch-worthy material can be found. Here chunkies from around the world are raising important questions like “What are the best foods for a binge?” and “How does your idea of a ’snack’ change as you get fatter?” Jollygoodgainer writes:
“Hi. I’m just wondering how gainers’ idea of a ’snack’ has changed over time. For example, when I started gaining, that might be a large bag of chips. Today, while running errands, I felt a little hungry, so I had two burgers, fries, two drinks and a bag of chips and hardly felt full. Indeed, when I got home, the snack kind of continued. For a bedtime snack, I enjoy five or six hotdogs, a sandwich and a bag of chips, along with several glasses of pop.”
So, what would normally feed a small family is considered a SNACK for you, you fucking cow?

Of course, not everyone is as lucky as Jollygoodgainer. In the progress reports forum, you can discuss your weight gain successes and frustrations. One eager gainer writes:
“I weighed myself today and only weighed 343. Thats only a five pound gain in two weeks … I have been eating 6000 calories a day or more for a month. I’m only 7 pounds from my short term goal of 350, but my long term goal of 400 plus, seems unattainable.”
Can you feel the pain of this tortured individual as he is shunned from the gainer community at a laughable 343 pounds? I mean, come on, only 6000 calories a day?? HA! Fucking n00b.

Even better, though, are the many erotic stories featured on the site. This one involves a woman in a mini-mart being forced to eat junk food while she gets fucked by the cashier:
“I bent over the desk, trembling with fear and a strange anticipation as he pulled my old grey sweat pants down to my knees. I wasn’t wearing any underwear - too confining. I burned with embarrassment at what he must think of my massive cellulite covered ass. I yelped as I felt the wooden spoon smack my bare ass at least ten times. He stood me up and ordered me to eat the melted ice cream. I drank the creamy melted mixture and soon felt like I was going to burst. I could barely move and felt like a bloated butterball. He sat down in a chair and sweetly massaged my swollen belly and French kissed my belly button again. Soon, my pussy was juicy and tingling with anticipation.”

Somehow more distressing are the stories which don’t even involve sex, and instead focus solely on descriptions of over-eating:
“She pushed another hash brown into her mouth and glanced down at her poor stuffed stomach and gave a big sigh. Her girth was literally enormous and her belly so large that it was hanging over the front of the chair. Arthur must have seen her hesitation because her chirped up, ‘Come on Helen, just a couple of sausages to go. I’m sure you can manage it’. Helen chuckled, her fat cheeks dimpling, of course she could manage it she thought although she knew it wasn’t going to be easy. She cut her sausages in half and one at a time pushed her fork into them and brought them up to her mouth. Each half filled her cheeks causing them to bulge as she chewed and swallowed. ‘That’s it!’ Arthur looked as pleased as punch as he admired her clean plate, ‘You really have done very well.’”

So next time you’re at McDonald’s considering that third quarter pounder, don’t hesitate! Chow down on that bad boy and remember that on the internet, there’s always someone who would blow a load watching you chomp away at all the McNuggets you can stuff down your fat facehole. Hey, the world’s scientific community might unanimously agree without hesitation that being obese is significantly detrimental to your health, but what the hell do they know? The fine folks at Fantasy Feeder think your bulk is beautiful… and really, now that we mention it, you could stand to gain a few pounds.












leila said,
April 13, 2006 at 10:14 am
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but this site is headed out of the UK, and a lot of the stories and photo submissions (damn you Rob) are from there as well. Blleeeehhkk. I thought the British would be some of the last people to enjoy such fatness. Why why why why why why why why why
If you haven’t already, read the book “Fast Food Nation” - it is life-changing. ooooh I hate fat people!!!! they’re like big disgusting babies, black holes, just everything about them is soooo grossss and WRONG!
Have a nice day!
Rob said,
April 13, 2006 at 11:41 am
Yeah, I noticed that a lot of that site comes out of the UK. In the documentary, they followed a British man who was traveling to America to fulfill his need for chunky ladies. I can only imagine that it’s more of a taboo in the UK where people generally aren’t as grotesquely huge as they are in America - and the taboo of it probably makes it more appealing. Also, as a fattie you probably feel a bit more isolated in the UK than you would over here, but much easier than trying to lose weight would be to look on the internet for some kind of community who will validate your over-eating. Thanks internet.
Tiffany said,
April 13, 2006 at 6:12 pm
6000 calories A DAY? I’m obsessed with counting every fucking calorie that goes into my mouth, so I am being completely accurate when I say that is more than I often consume in a WEEK. As a former fat-ass (and now a somewhat smaller fat-ass), I have developed quite a hatred for the obese. This feederism shit makes me sick. A sack of flesh covering every inch of a bed, with M&Ms stuck to her goddamn chest, is NOT SEXY.
General rule to live by: Once your body is shaped like a beanbag chair, it’s time to stop eating.
brown bunny said,
April 13, 2006 at 6:33 pm
JESUS CHRIST ALL MIGHTY!!!
I can’t even get past the pic of the fatty with the m&ms. How does she keep them from getting into her folds and creases. In my mind I just keep seeing various rainbows of color from melted m&ms streaming down her body from excessive sweating.
suede said,
April 14, 2006 at 4:38 am
God! I have read many forums of girls fighting with their overweight, anorexia, bulimia and all the EDS, actually i am fighting with my weight too and this is exactly the opposite of what they say in the forums and what i think of my self, i can’t believe there’s people that want to be obese..
it’s true that in the internet you it can be found all kind of weird things..
Erin said,
April 14, 2006 at 3:49 pm
God damn it Rob,
I think I may actually puke, like, that post was like being hit with the Flu!
My stomach just flipped reading that, let alone the pictures. Ug.
So fucking GROSS!
Where are those fucking Gypsies from “Thinner” when you need them!!??
augustus. said,
April 15, 2006 at 9:19 am
Oh … my … god …
I have to lose this extra weight I picked up. I’m going to have horrible nightmares about this entry. :(
Robin the mad photographer said,
April 15, 2006 at 7:54 pm
As someone who’s spent some time in size-acceptance communities online (and had to bail for a variety of reasons–it’s strange to realize that people are looking down at you because they don’t think you’re fat enough, for starters…), I’ve heard a fair amount about feederism, and can safely say it’s a very controversial subject in such communities, largely because of the unspoken BDSM aspects. Now, it’s human nature to want to feed and nuture loved ones, but this isn’t about love, as you pointed out–it’s TOTALLY about control issues. Why in the HELL would anyone want their partner to gorge themselves to a point where their lives are in serious danger? (A popular goal seems to be to get the feedee above 500 lbs., or to the point where they’re completely immoblized and unable to care for themselves…hello, can you say “issues with dealing with women”? Thought you could…) Needless to say, the feeders scream blue murder if you call them on their crap, but needless to say they wouldn’t be able to pull this kind of crap with women who have a reasonably decent sense of self-esteem. (In a way, it’s very much the flip side of ana/mia–it’s all based on having control of some kind over one’s body, or, in most feeder relationships, with someone else’s. Pretty fucked up either way, IMNSHO.)
Anonymous said,
April 25, 2006 at 9:00 am
All i can see here is pure hatred for people different than you.
Now THAT”S sad…
fatlover said,
May 12, 2006 at 5:09 pm
Don’t knock it until you have tried it. I happen to love my big fat feedee.
BTW the M&Ms don’t get lost in her folds, she always finds them.
Huge Feedee said,
May 12, 2006 at 9:08 pm
Well I guess I’m one of those disgusting lardass feedees that you hate so much. But to tell the truth I would want it any other way. Because not only do I get to live the way I want but I also get to piss off narrow minded intolerant jerks like your self.
Oh well gotta go, my husband is here to give me my evening snack and afterwards we’ll slam the big fat ham.
NERD said,
August 12, 2006 at 10:17 pm
eep….now…..this is horrible…i told my mom about it a while back (yep…we are weird….it was a weird conversation we had) and she came up with a good question…”how would they feel if the person that fed them all of that food left them for a fatter/skinnier person?” how would THEY feel? eh? eh? yup…i dont like it at all
NERD said,
August 12, 2006 at 10:17 pm
eep….now…..this is horrible…i told my mom about it a while back (yep…we are weird….it was a weird conversation we had) and she came up with a good question…”how would they feel if the person that fed them all of that food left them for a fatter/skinnier person?” how would THEY feel? eh? eh? yup…i dont like it at all
Mark said,
September 7, 2006 at 3:37 pm
This has to be the most disgusting fetish out there - I go to extreme measures to avoid morbidly obese lardasses, and I mean EXTREME — I don’t even want to think about them.
“Everything that is wrong with America, All in one blubbery package…” Preach the truth man, preach the truth.
Oh and thanks for scarring my eyes, I’ll be sending you the doctor’s bill. And the therapist’s.
C4bl3Fl4m3 said,
September 22, 2006 at 10:39 pm
What I don’t get is how this consensual sex practice (don’t buy into the myth that most of these women have self-esteem problems and don’t really want this… they wouldn’t be doing it if it didn’t turn them on as well… there ARE women out there who are genuinely turned on by the thought of being fattened up. Would you say that a woman who loses weight [small amounts or large amounts… from 5 lbs to an anorexic] so others take greater sexual interest in her also has self esteem problems?) freaks you out more than people NON-consensually killing animals for sexual pleasure.
Also, contrary to what popular media would have you believe, most feeders realize that feeding someone to extreme weights is not only rather unhealthy, but is also rather unfeasible. Most feeders and feedies get themselves off by reading and writing feeder/feedie erotica, drawing/viewing feeder/feedie porn, and/or fantasizing/role playing weight gain. Many also have the occasional “feeder” session, that accounts to about the same thing as you going to an all-you-can-eat buffet and pigging out. The “dark side” of feederism does exist, just like the dark side of BDSM exists. Yes, sometimes men do prey on women, fattening them up to immobility and leaving them. But, like BDSM turning into actual abuse, it’s a rather rare occurrence. Most feeders and feedies are responsible and consensual with their fetish. Those people get very upset that their consensual and safe practice of feederism is being condemmed by people who only are taking in account the times when the practice is being carried out in non-consensual ways. It would be like someone condemming all BDSM because sometimes people are actually raped or actually abused.
…and this grosses you out more than someone, say, killing an octopus for sexual pleasure WHY? (And I’m no animal rights activist, but I do worry about sexual acts with non-consenting partners or partners that we’re not fully able to find out if they consent or not… i.e. zoophilia and others)
Lucrezia George said,
February 16, 2007 at 8:48 pm
While I don’t agree with this practice of feederism, I really take offense to your general hatred of fat people. It is true that most people are fat because they overeat and don’t exercise. But why do people overeat? It is because they are bored, lonely, depressed, trying to deal with stress and trying to FILL AN EMPTY VOID. Overeating is very similar to drinking too much alcohol, taking drugs, having addictive sex, smoking, or engaging in any kind of possibly detrimental behavior. Do you hate alcoholics? Do you hate drug addicts? Do you hate depressed people? Do you hate the mentally ill? Do you hate anyone with any kind of flaw or human frailty??? Must everyone be perfect and have perfect self-control? HAVE SOME EMPATHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m sorry that I wear my flaws on the OUTSIDE where you can see them.
Lucrezia (300 pounds)
tony t said,
March 24, 2007 at 10:11 pm
u hoild beashamed of ur self
L337 M45+3R said,
April 13, 2007 at 10:12 pm
If you find the right person and both share the same passion, what does it matter what they look like. If you dont like it, why look and obsess over it? Why let the thing you hate control your emotions so?
Feeder said,
April 14, 2007 at 12:14 pm
I’m a feeder and having sex with my +700 pound fat lady freak is the hottest experience of my life. When we have sex it is all about her fat. The sex is best when she eats at me as I, pick up her overlapping apron of fat and plunge into her flaccid blubbery mound of slop, with her hole in it. I love the extreme masochism of her food binges. She told me that she intends to eat herself to death, and that is the biggest turn on of all.
Watching her immobilize herself with her fat dangling slop is pure heaven. You hate her and you probably hate me for enabling and encouraging her to eat herself to death, but I do not care. She is my sadistic fat fetish perversion come true and I love what she is doing.
name said,
April 16, 2007 at 12:27 pm
don’t tar all fat chicks wit the same brush.its a complete personal taste thing. There are some sexy ones out there no matter what you think. a good lookin fat chick is what you want. (no i don’t get feederism) all i’m gonna say is spend a night with a real women and then compare that to your fancied, anorexic, skinny,scrawny, snappable girlfriend
which is what she’d have to be like if you are as anti fat as your offensive ass is
dan and abs said,
April 30, 2007 at 6:06 am
The human body is just not meant to take that amount of weight. Its a small skeleton floating inside there…
Skunk said,
May 6, 2007 at 8:59 pm
While some of these pictures are a bit over the top, at least now I know where not to go when it comes to artwork. I had no idea there were people who hated fat so much. Hell, the author of this article sounds like he wants to kill them all. Just let them be. God will sort them out later.
leroy said,
June 11, 2007 at 1:21 pm
what a bunch of fat fuckers they need to get a fricen grip n stop eating poor bastards in 3rd world countries man need it more doh!its not about wanting to kill fat people the original post informs you they hate the idea of obesecity and people eating for the sake of it not for medical reasons
leroy said,
June 11, 2007 at 1:28 pm
ps if ya divnt like it ya can all suck me bulb that is apart from big fat hoes n hommes lol
bella said,
July 8, 2007 at 9:39 am
wow..this made me think, im very fat but I dont get the feeder thing. Its wierd to me. I am very fat but I am a student who works 2 jobs. I am a busy, fat person. I am fat but i am far from lazy, im fitter than half of my skinny friends. They choose to smoke, if your going to have a vice, make it something that u get just a lil pleasure from. Anyway my point is, not all fat people are lazy.
dogiii said,
July 11, 2007 at 8:44 pm
ye it friggin is discussting…I am a sports student(studying in germany)and all i can say is that alot of these fat ugly people keep on saying that its not their fault its a genetic thing or they are having some kind of a heart disease.It kept me thinking how many fat people have u heard saying that same bullshit over and over again just to justify themselves?ALOT!Let me get this straight u can loose weight but its only in ur hands and forget about those friggin diets its “mostly” all bullshit anyways.Sports is the only right thing to loose weight and to keep it at the level u want to.
Only Slightly Mad said,
August 7, 2007 at 8:57 pm
Wow I could feel the sheer hate radiating from that post.
Although I personally dont like fat people one of the reasons for it is that it represents the physical manifistation of gluttiny. While there are thousands of people dying per HOUR from starvation others are as big as buses, that’s why I frequently donate to charitys (when I can afford it)
Nympho said,
September 24, 2007 at 5:25 am
I really think they should all be shipped to starving nations so that their flesh may be consumed by people’s food they were wasting.
Because by eating all that shit, they must want to die a gruesome death. Let’s give it to them shall we?
Tiffany said,
November 25, 2007 at 2:46 am
Holy MOther of God! Those fat asses are disgusting. I can see maybe holding onto a little extra weight just simply because you liked to eat but my god that is like and obsession with food and they need to get laid to get their mind off consuming. HAha this makes me so angry to see these people. Ahhh i will never eat again. Celery for the rest of my life, holy faaaaaaAAAAaaaaack!
Yaka said,
December 3, 2007 at 6:19 pm
More fat guys,please!
Thanks!!!
Yaka said,
December 3, 2007 at 6:19 pm
More fat guys,please!
Thanks!!!
Yaka said,
December 3, 2007 at 6:19 pm
More fat guys,please!
Thanks!!!
ltw said,
December 15, 2007 at 6:01 am
spread the hate, man.
as someone with my own sexual fetishes, all i can say is, if you don’t like it, don’t do it. simple as that. Same as any other sexual act out there, controversial or otherwise.
madeline grace said,
January 11, 2008 at 2:56 am
First off, I’m not condoning morbid obesity. Quite honestly, I find it disgusting that people let themselves go to that extent (there’s a difference between being slightly overweight and looking like some of these people do, just as you had said).
I think it’s gross that people who clearly have a problem with excessive eating (which has likely led them and aided in their problems) utilize food as a means of foreplay and arrousal. At the same time, I find it disgusting that people who have a fetish for boulmovements use fecies in their sexual acts…What I’m saying is that most people have their vices, this is no more disgusting than someone who stuffs household appliances inside themselves during sex or someone who pees inside the mouth of their sexual partner.
Take my advice, and do what I plan to after I submit this comment….ignore it. Their problems are not our problems….So long as they’re not affecting you, don’t lose sleep over it.
Alberto said,
February 8, 2008 at 12:28 am
you are a stupid bastard for writing this article. people have their own likes/dislikes and if this is what they like to do then why get so mad. you sound like one of those lazy asses that you claim to hate them. Not all obese people are unhealthy and some people are attracted to the bigger body. If you hated gays too i would be surprised. Please stop writing because this is not a career for you.
Roxy said,
March 15, 2008 at 6:24 pm
OMG, I was FAT at one point, 220 in the 6th grade on to 10 grade. I lost alot of weight, I dropped to 155 lbs well, I was dating this guy from Cali and told me about his fantisy feedee feeder well he tried and we broke up, which is fine I cant think of me having fat like that, he wanted a goal of 500 lbs. he said he would take care of me and all that bullshit but just watching some one wasting their health is not taking care of that person that makes me sick, sorry Im not dying of a massive heartattck!!!
Fat Slop Sue said,
April 30, 2008 at 8:35 pm
Yea I am a Food Addict, I love eating and I am immobilizing myself with my own fat. Over the last 3 years i gained another 200 pounds of overlapping slop. I am way over 600 pounds and have a loving feeder who loves to have sex about my fat. I know all about the masochism of my binge eating, transforming myself into a huge side show fat lady freak. Yea I am a sex pervert, who loves the Sadist Sex of burying myself in hundreds of pounds of my own fat.
Overlapping my dangling Pannus Apron, of hanging belly slop, is the hottest part of our sex. He loves my lopsided Deformed apron slop and the more deformed & helpless i get the better. So eat yourself fatter and fatter, become a deformed S&M Fat Freak like me. Join our Ultra Fat Sexual Slop Perversion, it is pure Sadist Sexual Pleasure.